Russia is a proud nation. All these legends circling about cheap brides and girls that can be literally bought from a website cause them great upset. Not all Russian girls are scam artists – in fact the vast majority are totally legitimate and just like any other lady.

Markets today are open and people from the west are often sent for a business trip to Russia. Many international brands have settled their offices in Moscow, St. Petersburg or other big cities and men who visit them always come back home with stories of the fantastic women they have seen.

Indeed Russians are pretty and charming but many of them have learned that beauty is skin deep. They have been approached by many wealthy men but have learnt to recognize the symptoms of fake feelings. To start dating a local girl you should learn to keep your self esteem moderately high, be witty and charismatic.

There is a popular saying for the 3-second-contact. It works simply but effectively.

Walk towards the woman as if you are pretending to have internal dialogue: should I begin conversation, what can I tell her? Try to look like you do not want the girl to see you having this internal drama. Meanwhile surely you will be nervous but try not to send this mood to her. Do this for no more than three seconds!

Now you think that three is such a small number and that three seconds are nothing in this life but the human brain is able to process information with incredible speed. Do not forget that you are not making a 30 second video spot selling yourself, but only seeding the grains of impression.

Then, as if you have made up your mind all of a sudden, but not too close to her but close enough to be heard, tell her “Privet”. Privet means hello in Russian and it is friendly way to start. Do not try to impress the woman with complicated words of lousy foreign phrases. Your accent in this Privet will show her that you are foreigner and will prepare her brain in a few milliseconds that something interesting is going to happen.

Most Russians speak at least one foreign language. English today is everywhere: from business correspondence to movies and hearing you she will become more motivated to listen to you; which logically will lead to better understanding.

Try to speak in Russian if you know any phrases. This will show her your respect towards native culture. Foreign languages are not easy and this will put two of you in the same boat in the sea of uncertainty. Most local people are friendly and for sure she will help you in your initiative. These three seconds have already proven to her that you are spontaneous, amiable and kind. It is a positive beginning of dating and a beautiful friendship.

Of course this is not an absolute rule. The lady might be engaged or have reasons to decline your chat offer. Another important thing you should know is that the 3-second-contact rule is really limited in time. Your three seconds start with the moment when you notice her and the way to her is clear. In this moment, you do not have time to explore her company too much or anyone else around.

Time is passing. Could this type of Russian dating take you to the altar for marriage?

Adult travel

Mail order bride services have made thousands of men happy all over the world. These services have become more popular, and much more user friendly since the internet arrived, and this has increased their success rate.

Years ago everything was done through letters and photos which takes a long time for the mail to go back and forth. Now with the internet something that took days to do now takes minutes.

As well as the online meeting there are also romance tours which are the main part of how mail order bride services work. You go on a tour and meet lots of women so you get a chance to connect with someone.

On a romance tour you will first meet the ladies in their home country. You will be invited to large “Socials” where you will have the chance to meet hundreds of attractive eligible women. These women are looking for a husband from another country so they can leave their country of origin.

Socials are private affairs that are invitation only. Prior to the Socials you receive a list of all the women attending. Socials are professionally hosted events, and you will be made to feel as comfortable as possible. All this quality, care and professionalism maximizes your chances of meeting someone special who could eventually become your wife.

The Socials are fully catered events. You have good food, music and refreshments. You can attend more than one event so you can expose yourself to as many potential brides as possible. These women are there to meet you, and they’re not shy about that fact. This makes it so much easier for you, and makes the whole process as relaxed as possible. The women are singles who haven’t found what they want in someone in their home country, and are willing to leave for a different life with the right man.

You have the opportunity to interact with hundreds of eligible single women. You will be encouraged to talk to as many as possible as this will help you find someone you will want to meet again. You can arrange to meet the lady again with her or one of the staff of the organizers. All you will need to do is ask for her phone number or the next meeting can be arranged for a later date by the organizer.

Going to an event to have the chance of meeting hundreds of women can be a bit overwhelming. To help you it’s best to work out first what you want in your bride. This will help you stay focused, and instantly workout who doesn’t fit your criteria.

One of the major factors that can play a part in choosing your bride is children. This will need to be discussed early so no disappointments occur later. All you need to do is prioritise your criteria, and you will narrow your list of possible brides. You will be left with some very compatible women.

Most of the women their will speak fluent English, and for the women that don’t the organizers will have interpreters there for you.

Once you have found someone you like you will get help from the organizers as what to do next. They can help with tickets for a night out or a city tour. If not just let your date take you on a tour. This will create more interaction between the pair of you, and help create an early bond. Whatever you do, keep in touch with the organizers so you have complete assistance throughout your courtship with your mail order bride.

How to not be a victim of Relationship Fraud

It’s no secret that the Philippines produces a good number of foreign brides each year to Western men. Many women seek a better life from the poverty and widespread problems there, others are looking for something different, the money.

There are many successful marriages and lasting relationships that come from the exportation of Philippine brides. There are an equal number of women (and men) scamming Westerners out of the hard earned cash. The Internet has made meeting these women easy, and with beautiful brides awaiting, how does one know the relationship is real? Is she who she says she is?

Most relationships today begin on the Internet, or for a few, with a business trip or vacation to the Philippines. Developing a relationship on the Internet raises the risk level considerably. The best way to avoid fraud and scams (mainly advance fee fraud) is to visit the person and see who exactly you’re dealing with. Spend some time in her country and get to know her on a real and personal level. With today’s professional fraud groups, it can be difficult to know the difference between love and scam.

Avoid sending money and be skeptical of “emergencies”. Get to know the person slowly via the Internet, and follow up with phone conversations if the relationship progresses. Be wary of requests for money. And don’t be crazy. If you’re thinking of marriage, invest in the effort to visit the Philippines before beginning any serious commitment. Lastly, if all looks good and you think you may have found the real thing, get the confidential background check by Wymoo International, and sleep well at night!

Be safe and happy hunting,

A. Hathaway

Copyright © 2005-2007 A. Hathaway

There are reasons you should carefully check the dating site you are about to join. It is especially true if the dating site of your choice is a brand new dating site and does not have established client base. That is why I always recommend joining a larger dating site.

Newly established dating sites tend to attract a lot of scammers. I joined a smaller dating site before. It’s been a couple of years and I haven’t checked back. Suddenly I received an e-mail from that dating site. Here is the text of the e-mail. 

Dear Friend. I am Mrs. Susan Johnson from Abidjan cote d\’ivoire I am the wife of late Japhet Johnson a famous politician and successful business merchant on (Coca, gold and diamond ) I want you to assist me transfer the sum of $18 million which my late husband deposited in bank here before his unfortunate death to your bank account in your country i will give you 20% of the total money . Please i waiting for your urgent reply through my private email here. Best regards, Susan 

We’ve all seen this kind of money transfer scam before, however dating sites used to be a venue for Russian bridal scammers more so than the money transfer, get rich quick scam. It seems like the scammers have branched out into the online dating scene as well. If you receive an e-mail that looks like the above quoted, remember not to fall prey to scammers. Read more on Russian Dating Scams

Avoiding Russia & Ukraine Dating Scams

Russia and Ukraine dating scams and bridal fraud continue to operate throughout both nations, and victims are now more widespread than ever. Dating sites in the U.K., United States, Canada and Australia are now infiltrated with scammers seeking victims, not to mention the sites which specifically cater to men seeking Ukraine or Russia brides or relationships.

Law enforcement struggles to identify known scammers and criminals of fraud via the internet, especially in the Ukraine and Russia, where corruption remain at high levels. Of course, there are many decent and honest women in Russia and the Ukraine who are online seeking an honest relationship with a foreigner. The challenge remains how to identify the good from the bad.

Internet scams and dating fraud is now a serious and costly international issue. The annual loss from such scams, from the Ukraine and Russia alone, is estimated at well over $5M USD. Victims end up losing their money via common schemes such as assisting with education, paying for medical expenses, visas, rent, flights, or other emergencies or travel arrangements, otherwise known as advance fee fraud, online dating scams, etc.

For those seeking an honest woman via the internet in Russia or the Ukraine are advised to proceed with caution and to contract the services of a professional background check service. Due to the high level of fraud here, there are now competent Ukraine private investigators operating in Kiev and Russia private detectives in Moscow and St. Petersburg who can assist clients with verifying identity, background checks, verifying education and employment, and identifying fraud.

Wymoo® now has field investigators based in Kiev and Moscow and offers clients a free and confidential investigation quote via its website. Consumers are advised against using local Russian owned agencies due to reports of fraud among those agencies.

Best of luck,

A. Hathaway

© 2006-2009 A. Hathaway

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