Most of us may think we are too smart to be conned. This is just what the Love Predator counts on–an element of denial working in you while they work their magic on you. As the saying goes, “Love is blind,” and while your intentions are based on giving and receiving; theirs are based on taking whatever they can, and then leaving you. Con Artists and the love predators, go straight for your “love is blind spot.”

In my blind spot, an adept con artist came along who courted and married me with the intent to take my home, business, money, credit, and identity. And although these cases are increasingly commonplace, it’s unlikely to happen to you. However, in this era of easy anonymity, any one of us can fall prey to a love interest hiding behind a false identity; what I call a Love Predator.

With identity theft and Internet fraud, a new crime wave has emerged. It now extends to a person’s love life. Since these fraudulent activities involve matters of the heart, they are classified as civil, and allow love predators to easily escape criminal prosecution. In fact, because of the anonymity factor, the true identity of a perpetrator may never be known. The damage to our culture grows daily and requires a pro-active approach.

On the quest for love, risks and dangers may include a betrayed heart, abandonment disorder, loss of self-esteem, trust, and time; as well as damage to your psyche, making it more complex to attract the love of your life. Use wisdom when looking for romance and dating success in the 21st Century. And use Dating ID.

What is a dating ID? Entry to the online social networking environment requires a PC, but no identification. Dating ID or Dating Identification is a new system to determine a person’s identity in order to support a truthful dating environment.

And because of easy anonymity, the entire dating landscape has changed. Matchmaking services, online dating sites, and relationship coaches advocate background searches for their clients and members to guard against romance scams. Dating ID is not a background search. Rather, it is an identity certification issued to individuals who deliberately apply for it.

With the acceptance and popularity of online dating, the number of people who use false photographs, wrong marital status, and false profiles is steadily rising. Marcus Frind, founder of plentyoffish.com said both men and women are equally guilty when it comes to fudging profiles. “With women, it’s weight; for men, it’s height. A third party (giving an assessment) is the simplest way to go.” Other dating sites such as True.com and E-Harmony have followed suit providing identity verification for online dating site members. The fraud can range from fudging to gross misrepresentations of identity factors, with intent for personal gain.

I have developed the Dating ID concept over the past few years in answer to my con artist husband. Instead of getting bitter, I got better and filed a patent for DATING ID with the United States Trademark and Patent Office. I also share the true story, “Oops, I Married a Con Artist,” about my marriage to a man impersonating an Air Force Pilot during the 911 era in hopes that others will step up and confront this growing crime wave in a proactive manner.

If you are one of the many Americans looking for a Russian wife or someone from another country to marry, online dating maybe a convenient way to find your match. However, be extra cautious because many forms of online dating scam are also all over the dating sites on the internet.

To give you some tips on how to spot an online dating scam, here are some telltale signs that you have to be cautious.

1. If your online date involves money, then you have to be extra cautious. Of course, scammers don’t ask money right away. They will often lead you to a normal and romantic exchange of emails, or conversations over IMs. Money matters will most often come in later. Keep in mind that scammers are in for the money so they would not want to be too obvious about it.

2. Your date discourages you to come to her country and strongly insists on her going to yours. One of the most common excuses that scammers use to get money from you is that she has to pay for the travel documents – her passport and visa. To check for online dating scam, inform her that you are coming even if you are just testing her. This will often help you check out if your online date is not a scammer.

3. If your date requests money through ways or means in which fraudulent transactions are hard to track, then you must think twice as well.

4. Scammers often post beautiful and seductive pictures of women in dating sites. Obviously, they want to get the most number of men looking for a woman to become their victims.

5. If the letters you receive may sound and read exactly the same with others. You may not be able to check but you can be resourceful enough and find copies of your love letter online. Scammers often send the same letter, except for some variation in the start and end of the letter. This helps them save time in composing mails to every man they get to attract from dating websites. Most often, they will also write emails about sex – before they will squeeze everything you have.

6. If your woman is suggesting some travel agencies where you can pay for the visa, passport and other travel documents, you may want to check out if the travel agency is registered. Aside from asking money for the fare or visa, scammers may also ask money to pay for an outstanding loan, or for a relative who is ill, or she may also asks for gadgets like cell phone.

Keep in mind that scammers can even spend months in communicating with you without giving you any hint that he is a scammer. When you eventually fall for her, it is now that she starts to ask money from you. Keep in mind also that scammers may send you pictures in your frequent exchange of emails.

Some may also get into identity theft to have a face and a name to be a front of their scams and fraudulent activities. With this, it is important to be aware and be alert if you are dealing with an online dating scam.

Shattering Secrets You Can’t Afford to Miss That Someone’s Scamming You in Their Profile Successful online dating requires a variety of skills; the main being the ability to decipher an online profile. The skill of reading between the lines of a profile can mean the difference of spending an evening with a recently released resident of the state penal system, handing your personal contact info over to the cyber-stalker from Hell, or finding your one true soul mate.

Here are the big red flags in online dating personals:  

1. Photograph. If the photograph was obviously taken at a high school graduation but the person’s age is listed anywhere over the age of 25; this is a major warning sign which says “I think that I looked my best a long time ago.” In some cases, a really long time ago.   Another thing to keep in mind is if a photograph looks like a male or female model, it probably is and it’s probably not a photograph of the person, since models rarely need to look for dates online.   Other warning signs in personal photos include: a shot where the significant other has been obviously cropped out, any photos involving cans of beer or firearms, a personal album filled only with head shots, or the worse case scenario, no photograph at all.  

2. Weight. There are two areas in which most people scam when it comes to filling out personal questionnaires: weight and income. You need to keep in mind that most people tend to low-ball the weight while high-balling on income. Any personal ad that has the weight described as “curvy,” womanly,” “plump,” hefty,” or “one big boy” is a sure sign that you will be spending your first date at an all-you-can-buffet and your compact Toyota is going to need an overhaul of the suspension system before the night is over.  

3. Income. When the income level on a personal is either left blank or is listed as $150,000+, there is a good chance that your intended is employed at a mini mart or not at all. Unless you’re into Big Gulps, nachos and hanging out in parking lots on Friday nights, this probably is a good time to take a pass.  

4. “I enjoy long moonlit walks on the beach.” Ladies, if you see this line in a man’s personal ad, this man is a liar, pure and simple. No heterosexual male over the age of 6 actually enjoys walking hand in hand on the beach, not if there is a television set or sports bar within 20 miles. He may take a few walks on the beach with you in the beginning, but if the relationship goes long term, forget about it.   An absolute must-see for you!  Are you looking for stunning, kind and loving people to date? Whether you’re looking for a luscious hottie from overseas, a fantasy mail order bride or just a gorgeous American next door to date, come see us to get a flaming hot FREE kissing guide and learn all the tips and tricks to 1) finding spectacular partners and 2) making love happen. Show Me How.

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Jane (not real name) is a forty-seven year-old lady, divorced, living in Austin, Texas. She has three grown-up children, who are all married. In 2006, she lost some thousands of dollars to a scammer from Nigeria.

She refused to be deterred by this experience and again signed up with one of the popular dating sites to get a probable date. She also joined some online groups in order to meet and make friends.

It was on one of such sites that she met Dave (not real name), a forty something year old man living in Abuja, Nigeria.

They seemed to get on well, and began to communicate with each other regularly.

What struck her most was the fact that he was very plain with her, and told her all she wanted to know.
He made no pretences and made no false claims, as scammers typically do.
Months later, she came to Nigeria and they got married. And from all indications, they really love each other.
This time around, not one dollar of hers got missing neither was she asked to cough up any money or any such thing that scammers normally do to get money from their victims.

At long last, Jane was able to successfully put the sad episode of the scam behind her and find her lover.

This is a true story as told me by Jane herself.

If you have been scammed or you are scared because of someone who has had the experience, you also can still find true love on the Internet, even from Nigeria, if that is what you want.

You should not because of one bad experience shut out every new opening or opportunity that comes your way for getting a date.

Jane chose to still date, even with her experiences. She decided to learn from what had happened to her, and move on.
By now, she had enough experience to prevent anyone from scamming her again, and as such she had her eyes open wide.

Scams do happen, but love also happens too. And more and more people are finding love by the day.

You can also find your own love today, if you are willing to take the risk.

Online Dating has become very successful within the last decade. Successful for the investors and for the users and, sad to say, successful for the scammers also. It is inevitable – with the amount of users – that some fraudulent activities are going to occur. You will need to prepare yourself for the online dating world by practicing some common sense. Read up on the common scams for online daters and arm yourself with valuable knowledge that will keep your money in your pocket and your heart in the right place.

Fortunately, with online dating, the majority of online daters are honest and trustworthy with only a very tiny minority having nefarious intentions. Be aware of anyone who wants to meet in person immediately. There should be a period of time of online chats and phone calls before meeting another person offline is even considered. When you do meet up with someone, it is imperative that you do not leave your personal belongings alone with him or her at any time. Being left alone with personal belongings is an easy way to steal credit cards or some other personal information. These may not be missed for several days.

Also, with online dating, one must be vitally aware of people who send you links. Never click on a link unless you know what it is and certainly never download any programs to your computer which others are sending you or they may have in their profiles. This is an easy way to send spyware programs which may steal information from your computer such as passwords and credit card numbers.

Similar to the Online Dating scam above, there is another scam which is not done by the Online Dater, but by the online dating service itself. An online dating service which is not well-known or which has only recently been established, may use your credit card number or personal information for themselves. Being on the internet, these unscrupulous companies can easily disappear and it may be a long time before your money is found – if at all. Ensure you always read the terms and conditions before you sign up and give your details just to make sure there is no clause that gives them permission to use your personal information in any way. This includes your email address.

Last, but by no means least, you ought to be concerned if an online dating contact asks you to cash money orders or checks. Online daters have been scammed into cashing these checks and then wiring the money to their online dater. These checks may have been stolen, or bought for a small amount, and then altered. Eventually, these people will get caught out and the trail could lead to you and you will then be responsible for owing the bank. The smartest thing to do is to stay out of any financial matter, no matter how appealing or trustworthy your online date may seem.

This article has not been written with the intention of scaring you off online dating, but rather with the good intention of making you aware of what has happened to some in the past. From previous bad experiences of other people – sad as it may seem – the present and future experiences for people can be made safer and enjoyable. By being smart and using common sense there is no reason why you should not enjoy the pleasant experience of online dating.

Thankfully, these scams are rare, as most people now realize how vulnerable they can be on the internet. After all, you would not leave your front door open and your valuables in view when there are millions of people passing by every day. It only takes one with wicked and criminal intentions to enter and take what they want. Don’t leave yourself exposed to online dating scams.

Be safe, be confident and, above all, be happy with your online dating.

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