Elena Petrova has put together a list of ‘Bad Girls’ girls who take your time, your affection, and your money. Her list is at the following website:

http://www.womenrussia.com/blacklist_summary.htm

If you peruse the pictures of the women in her black list, what characteristics do you see in common?

Well, for one almost all of them are:

· Young

· Beautiful

· Without children

What does that tell you? That all young, beautiful women without children are bad?

No. It tells you that if you had picked a woman who is average looking in appearance, over thirty-five years of age, or who has children, there is virtually no chance that she is a scam artist or a gold-digger.

Men ask, “How can I be sure that she is honest in her intentions?” I will repeat again for those who didn’t hear me the first time:

If a Russian woman is average looking in appearance, over thirty five years of age, or has children there is almost no chance that she will be trying to scam money out of you or that she is a gold-digger only interested in your money or getting to America.

Why? Because these women have virtually no chance of getting married in their own country.

They want to meet a foreign man to get married and have a happy family life. They see the bigger picture. They aren’t looking to make a few extra bucks, like a scam artist is. They want to change their whole life.

They aren’t going to risk their own and their children’s welfare to ‘get to America.’ They have no idea what American life is really like. There is a lot of fear in going someplace unknown.

Many of these women have not been far from their own hometown. The vast majority of Russians live and die within ten miles of where they are born. They aren’t going to risk going to America unless they really trust you.

That is as simple as it gets.

Will any of you listen to me, probably not? Because you want the young, beautiful women without children.

Is that wrong? No, but it sets you up to be taken advantage of by the list of women you see above.

Does that mean that all women who are beautiful, young, and without children are bad?

Of course not! It means you have to use discretion.

The vast majority of women on the websites want to get married. That is their motivation. Most of them are not interested in uprooting their entire life in order to ‘get to America.’

We talked about this before, but we will talk about it again.

International love

“Scam artists are always looking to exploit vulnerable people, which is why dating services can be prime targets for financial ripoffs”. Those are the words of Mindy Bockstein; Chairperson and Executive Director of the New York State Consumer Protection Board.

Online dating has come a long way from being initially thought of as something only “losers” would participate in to a multi billion dollar business which has been widely accepted into the mainstream. That’s explosive growth for an industry that is still relatively new. And running in the shadows is a group of people who have made a considerable fortune from internet dating online. The scammers.

Some scams such as the ones originating from Nigeria or the Russian mail order bride   swindle have become running jokes in some quarters. But it is no laughing matter to the victims of these hoaxes or any other internet scheme.

It’s a given that for any scam artist online or off to be successful, they must have the skill to manipulate the system. And like the offline world, when it comes to internet dating that expertise must also be coupled with their ability to manipulate their victim’s emotions.

It can start with a phony photo of a good looking person.  The purpose of which is to catch your interest and set your heart to racing. Contact is made and you find out the two of you have so much in common. You like hiking; so do they. You like obscure songs from the nineteen eighties; they do too.

Once that connection is established then they turn up the volume. Seemingly out of nowhere they start talking about love. It gets pretty intense and relentless. At first you may be taken aback but the constant flattery, reaffirming of that “mutual bond” and the appearance of them opening themselves up to you can easily have your emotions spinning out of control.

This is where you need to think logically and put the brakes on your feelings. In fact it should probably be a clear indicator to end communication pronto. Wonderful chats and common connections aside, you do not know this person. Anyone who starts talking about love after a relatively short period of time should raise alarm bells. In some ways it’s the equivalent of going out on a blind date and after one hour the other person declares their undying love for you. Needless to say you would want to end that date as soon as possible and cut off all future contact. 

You should carry that same attitude online. Unfortunately some people don’t. Their emotions are so far out in front that there is no way that common sense and reason can catch up to them. And what is the result? For the people running the Nigerian dating or the Russian bride scams; business is booming.